Wow ~ it’s been awhile since I’ve blogged. The past year really feels like a blur, and the past few months especially I have felt like I was just trying to keep my head above water. In the past year we have moved from our home of 10+ years, started over in a new ministry, and had a baby! All of that life change combined with having two other “big” kids and the normal craziness of summer in kidmin followed by new church/school year really brought many days where I felt like I was drowning.
I think we all encounter seasons like that. Here are a few lessons I learned while treading water…
- It’s ok to say it out loud. It is probably my battle with pride, but I usually want people to think I have it altogether. When you are drowning, it is likely that the people around you already know. So call it what it is, admit where you are struggling and don’t be afraid to ask for help. I should have done that way earlier.
- Apologize when you drop the ball, but don’t let it consume you. Again, no one is expecting you to be perfect. Let go of the pride of appearing to be perfect. Say you’re sorry and let it go.
- It is a season. This won’t last forever. It is a season and you may have to make changes for the season. I’ve had to let go of some things I love by choice (like blogging consistently) and some by the nature of the life stage (like sleep – my baby is not necessarily a fan). But it isn’t for forever. Eventually she will sleep past 5 am. I’m even more together than I was three weeks ago. Things get better and things change. Even if you have to say no for now, it doesn’t mean no forever.
- Be cautious of what you’re pushing under to stay on top of the water. You’ve heard about the danger of trying to rescue someone who is drowning? In their panic they could push you under the water as they try to stay afloat? Be careful that you aren’t drowning other important people or facets of your life to try to stay afloat yourself.