Today you get a special treat. I am very thankful for our pastor, Dr. Les Hughes, and his support of kidmin at Westwood. As I’ve gotten out of my own little world over the past few years and gotten to know other kidmin’s across the country, I have realized how very blessed I am to have a good relationship with our pastor. Today he has given us a peek into pastor world with his guest post.
Recently our Children and Preschool Minister, Jenny Funderburke, shared with me the results of a Kidmin survey she saw. The question was: “How would you describe your relationship with the Senior Pastor?” Some of the Kidmin folks’ responses were positive (e.g., friendly, professional, close); but some of the comments saddened me (e.g. disconnected, strangers, antagonistic, war zone, aloof), especially for the families affected by their ministries The survey responses caused me to reflect on my own attitude to the priceless people in our Kidmin world. Do I make their job easier or harder? Do they feel as if they’re valued members of our team? While I have a long way to go, I hope I never seem aloof or disconnected, and certainly not antagonistic to people in our Kidmin world.
If you are a Kidmin person, I hope you’re in an environment that’s fun and effective. I hope you feel valued by the others on your staff team. I must remain open to input from others concerning how I can help and not hinder their ministries. At the same time I want to help others understand traits that a Senior Pastor desires from Kidmin people. I’ve listed 7 such traits below. I could have listed more, and they’re in no certain order of priority, but I hope they help you see things from a Senior Pastor’s or Lead Pastor’s perspective.
See the big picture
Senior Pastors want you to be passionate about the calling God has placed in your heart. If you don’t go to battle for the little ones no one else may, but he loves them, too. Please keep in mind that in every decision he makes he has to ask the question, “How will everyone be affected,” not only those in Kidmin world.
It should be fun to be a kid, and it should be fun to be an adult. If there’s any area that should be fun for people to serve in, it’s Kidmin world. If kids have fun at church, they’ll want to come back, and usually parents will want to bring them back. Also, people are more likely to volunteer where they believe they’ll have fun. If you want folks to leave your ministry, take out the fun factor.
Everyone is creative. We have a creative God. Even if you believe you aren’t, you’re probably just creative in a way that’s not obvious. If you struggle to be creative, find some creative people to put on your team. Competition in the marketplace is tough. The church may not be able to compete with another organization’s dollars, but we have something they don’t—the greatest message in the world, the Gospel. We’re investing and building for eternity.
Ministry can be a lonely place. Wise ministry leaders intentionally build teams with a variety of people and gifts to accomplish their goals. We can accomplish more together than we can on our own.
Helps others feel valued
This is a part of team building. People want to feel valued, and they’ll invest in what they value themselves. As we pour our lives into others, they’ll know we value them.
The Apostle Paul told a young pastor named Titus, “But as for you, speak the things which are fitting for sound doctrine” (Titus 2:1).
Not afraid to admit something isn’t working
It’s best if we’re married to our “Why”, but only dating our “How” and “What.” Our mission won’t change, but our methods will. If something isn’t producing the desired results we should at least have a conversation about making some changes.
I liked this one so much I mentioned it twice.
Does any of this ring true with you? Please weigh in if you agree, disagree, or have more traits to add.